Quickly changing the way that you feel.

We all have times that we feel in an unresourceful place and do not know how to move away from that or indeed how we would rather feel instead.  We all have times where we are tense and feeling anxious and find it difficult to relax. In fact we try so hard to relax we...

The Power of Behaving ‘As If’

In NLP one of the tools that we use to facilitate change in others is to encourage the client to think and imagine ‘as if …..’  As if they had already changed, or got that job or were totally whole and healed.  The primary purpose of this is to encourage and escort...

Healing and the Mind

Conventional medicine would have us think only of our bodies as physical meat and bones and various types of plumbing and filtering all of which can be fixed and kept going through the intervention of pharmaceuticals and the physical intervention of other means to...

Procrastination

Procrastination is one of the most all-consuming states of being that interferes with our general well-being.  The feeling that tasks need to be done or more challengingly ‘should’ be done.  The word should is always a flag raiser for me and I will come onto that a...

Review Your Day ……And De-stress from it

When feeling stressed what we often and very typically tend to experience whirling thoughts which can focus upon anything, what happened, what might happen, what should have happened and so on.  If left unattended then these thoughts will continue to whirl and add to...

Disposability – a major threat to lasting relationships

When we are first entering into a new personal relationship, we are swamped with an enormous amount of chemical information which creates and influences our emotional state.  The high of falling in love is mostly chemistry and yet it is quite addictive. We have...

Finding a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ – decision making

I have often had clients come to me because they find it difficult to make decisions for what can be multiple reasons.  More about that another time.  After having worked through their background processes I have found that there are a number of simple ways to help...

Dreams and Goals

There is a lot written about goals and dreams online and most say pretty much the same thing, however I like to take a slightly different approach to setting goals as I think goals and dreams are not quite the same thing and to have both can be a valuable approach to...

Finding the ‘I Am’

I was recently reading a novel where a father of the characters gave this advice:   ‘What I’m saying is that you don’t have to be like anyone else, whether they are similar or different.  You are your own person.  The greatest enemy is often your perception of...

Seeking Clarity – Your Internal Map

As we go through life we begin to build up a set of thought patterns, behaviours and beliefs about how the world works, experiences and values which all contribute to the kind of person we are.  This set of patterns is called our map of the world and each of us has a...